The W-word: Talking About Weight With Athletes
As coaches, we play a huge role in shaping not just performance, but also the confidence and wellbeing of the athletes we work with. And while body composition can influence sport, conversations around weight are loaded with meaning, tied closely to body image, self-esteem, and health. That’s why it’s worth slowing down and thinking carefully about how (and if) to approach the subject. Here are some principles to guide you:
1. Know your why
Before starting a weight-related conversation, ask yourself: Is this truly necessary? Does it directly connect to the athlete’s health, performance, or goals? If not, it might be better left unsaid. If yes, be clear about the purpose and frame it in a way that supports the athlete’s overall wellbeing.
2. Step into their shoes
Think about how your words might land. Could this trigger negative emotions, reduce confidence, or encourage unhealthy behaviors? Check that the athlete is in the right headspace before raising sensitive topics.
3. Create a safe setting
Never bring up weight in public or in passing. Choose a private, distraction-free space so the athlete feels comfortable and respected.
4. Focus on performance, not appearance
Shift the conversation from numbers or aesthetics to how proper fueling and recovery impact performance, strength, and resilience. The goal is to help athletes thrive, not to chase a certain “look.”
5. Choose your words wisely
Language matters. Keep it neutral, non-judgmental, and free from comparisons. Instead of,“You’ve gained weight since last year. You’d be faster if you dropped back to your old weight.” Try,“It looks like your performance has plateaued. Do you want to talk about what’s changed (training, recovery, stress, nutrition) that might be affecting things?”
6. Listen first
Give space for athletes to share their thoughts and feelings without interruption. Active listening helps you understand their perspective and shows that you value their voice.
7. Recognize individuality
Every athlete is different. Avoid comparisons or one-size-fits-all advice. Weight is shaped by many factors like genetics, growth, stress, and more. Support them with individualized approaches to nutrition, recovery, and training.
8. Encourage healthy habits
Promote a holistic approach: balanced fueling, hydration, sleep, and rest days. Frame food as fuel, recovery as progress, and health as the foundation of performance.